Friday, July 12, 2013

You are the company you keep

Birds of a feather flock together and hence the group of friends you spend most of your time with, and the direction they are headed is a clear indication of your own direction... so long as you keep within that group. A smart man surrounds himself with smart people. So if you hang around people who are complain a lot but never do anything about the situation they are in, then guest what? That's what you will end up being like. So the statement basically means that choose your friends wisely for you will be judged by others to whom the company you keep. However, it's not so much on what other people think anyway. It's more a good reflection on your personality as to the calibre of the company you keep.

So, do stop and have a look around you when you are with your group of friends. Is being like A what you want? Is having what B has what you want? If behaving like C what you would want your children behave like? If the answer is 'no', then you need to look for new friends. Make no mistake about it, when we put our head in the "trash can", the rest of our body eventually falls in. It happens all the time. What you focus your energy on... and your time spent with friends is energy spent on a focal point... you eventually end up with. 

You see, the thing about human nature is that when we are in a group, we (as the group) will pull whomever in the group who is trying to be different back down into the rut with us. This goes for both relatives as well as friends. In some cases, relatives are the worse. I believe the Filipinos call this the Crab-in-the-Pot mentality. Individually, the crabs can easily escape from the pot that they are in, but instead, they will grab at each other in a useless "king of the hill" competition which prevents any from escaping and thus ensuring their collective demise. The analogy in human behaviour is that members of a group will attempt to "pull down" (negate or diminish the importance of) any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, conspiracy or competitive feelings. And the danger here is they may do this sub-consciously, not necessarily consciously.

So, now... How do you break out of the group? Well, it's not as easy as it seems and yet it's not as difficult as it really is. First, you need to determine the suitability of the group you are with i.e. their mindset; their outlook; what they have; their being; their approach; their integrity; their energy and urgency etc. For simplicity, I'll just lump all that as the group's "bar". After that you need to ask yourself if THAT (where their "bar" is set) is what you want. If the answer is no, then perhaps it would help to clear the air for yourself by then asking yourself, where should the "bar" be set? Or, where would you like your "bar" to be set? With that in mind, you can use the law of attraction to bring this new group to you. Like attract like. It's funny but even the old saying (that do not seem related) that "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear" also applies here. When you set in your mind and thus your mind's frequency what you want, the universe will bring that which you want to you. Pretty soon, you will start making new friends that will support you in your quest. They may have similar ideals you have; think in the same frequency with you etc. In some cases, they've always been there but you've never noticed them before because you only saw the previous group due to your mind's frequency. They may point you in certain directions or introduce you to other friends that have the right knowledge to guide you towards your goals and aspirations. And these are people whom you would never have met if you did not "raise your hands and asked for help". You would have been happily and ignorantly stuck.

However, be warned... the previous group will notice your impending departure. And like the Crab-in-the-pot, they will belittle you, cast doubt on your own new found aspirations, even attempt to make you doubt your new found friends. And sometimes, they do not necessarily do this in a direct manner, but in a reverse psychology way. this is where you will face your real test. Do you really want what you said you want? Are those new aspirations really important to you? Make no mistake about it, the power of association, in this case it's the negative aspect i.e. the need to feel accepted, is indeed a very very strong emotion. Fail this test, and it's back into the pot with the rest of the crabs. 

If you pass this test, never look back for you are free. You may or may not achieve your aspirations the way you envisioned them, but you would have taken a bold new step towards a whole new world, opening many new doors towards different more positive possibilities. The future would be a blank white piece of paper and your are the Pica-so or Michaelangelo of your own masterpiece which is your life.

And by the way, after awhile, it is fine to return and "catch up" with the old group. No, I'm not asking you to be obnoxious. You are all still friends, just no

t so close any more. Catching up is a good way of remembering our roots and to reflect on what we have achieved. Would you still be like them if you did not take that leap of faith? Maybe, maybe not? But I'm sure you would not exchange what you have now with what you had the last time.




Monday, July 1, 2013

Atlantis Found? Giant Sphinxes, Pyramids In Bermuda Triangle? (from around the Blogs)

Another nice & interesting read from around:


June 17, 2013 - Two scientists, Paul Weinzweig and Pauline Zalitzki, working off the coast of Cuba and using a robot submersible, have confirmed that a gigantic city exists at the bottom of the ocean. The site of the ancient city — that includes several sphinxes and at least four giant pyramids plus other structures — amazingly sits within the boundries of the fabled Bermuda Triangle.

According to a report by Arclein of Terra Forming Terra, Cuban Subsea Pyramid Complex, the evidence points to the city being simultaneously inundated with rising waters and the land sinking into the sea. This correlates exactly with the Atlantis legend.


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Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Dealing with Negative People


In our daily lives, it is inevitable that we will meet with people who are just so negative about life that negativity just oozes from them like nobody's business.

Negativity can be in many forms. It can be that the person:
  • has a Negative outlook of life; 
  • likes to sabotage others;
  • is an energy sucker;
  • likes to talk negative; 
  • ... and the list goes on
Whatever it is, sometimes we just cannot avoid contact with such people. More so if they are part of family or worse... they are your spouse!

For people who are acquaintances or friends, it is relatively easy. All you need to do is distant yourself from them. If contact becomes inevitable, just ignore their negativity and focus on positive. By ignoring and not participating in their "pity parties", you are essentially indirectly in a polite way showing them that they will not get the attention craving from you. They will very quickly turn their attention elsewhere or change the subject. It works.

However, family is more difficult. You see them quite often and sometimes they live with you. If you have a problem with a member of your family who is negative, begin by writing a list of all the things you appreciate about that person. Remember to include gratitude to them for giving you a great desire for positivity in your life; because that is a gift they are giving you. When we focus on the positive aspect of them, we draw that back from them. That part in them will rise up to meet you. And please don't tell me that you can't find anything positive about that person. Everyone has both a positive and negative aspect to them. That's the nature of being human. A negative oriented person is merely someone who has put over attention onto the negative. If you look at them carefully, you will notice the positive parts of them... and that is where you place your focus on.

As you focus with all of your strength on appreciation of others, you will not only reduce your exposure to the negativity, but at the same time you will be attracting positive people into your life.

Get yourself on to the appreciation frequency, and the law of attraction can surround you only with people who are in a positive state.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Everything is Perfect the Way it is

Do we sometimes fret when events beyond our control that are not to our liking happen to us? Most of us do. We start asking “why me?” or “poor me”. This may be hard for some to accept, but the fact is we actually brought it to our lives. Somewhere along the line we have made decisions and taken certain course of actions that has resulted in those events happening to us. The reverse is also true for all the good things that have happened in your life. Just think of all the good things in your life. Have we not at one point in time made decisions and taken actions that paved the way for such positive events to happen to us? I’m sure we did do something. If you understand how the law of attraction works, even a thought can bring in these events.

However I would like to state here that whether an event is good or bad is really our perception of it. How do we know if something is good or bad? The event is neutral. It is our belief system that results in us labelling the event as either good or bad.

There is an old Chinese folktale about a farmer who lived at the northern frontier. This farmer had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbours came to condole over his terrible loss. The farmer said, "What makes you think it is so terrible?"
A month later, the horse came home--this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbours became excited at the farmer's good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, "What makes you think this is good fortune?"
The farmer's son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg. All the neighbours were very distressed. Such bad luck! The farmer said, "What makes you so sure this isn't a blessing?"
A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man was conscripted and sent into battle. The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men. Only the farmer's son, because he had a broken leg, remained. Only because the son was lame did the father and son survive to take care of each other. Truly, blessing turns to disaster, and disaster to blessing: the changes have no end, nor can the mystery be fathomed.

All events are neutral and even events that we perceive at that point of time to be negative may turn out to be blessings in disguise. The events that happen in your life are perfect as it is. You are in the perfect place on your perfect journey. You are right where you are meant to be, because you chose it. In fact, you could not be more perfect than you are now.

And now realize that you brought in all the good things into your life. Your thoughts and feelings moved the energies of the Universe to bring all those good things to you. You are a powerful being.

The law of attraction is precise, and when you do not get the results you want, it is only through your misuse of the law; instead of bringing what you want, you are creating not bringing what you want. But either way you are still creating. The law is infallible and it is always responding to you.

Monday, April 29, 2013

Predictions for Malaysia's 13th General Election (GE13) - what does it mean for us all?


Before I begin, I would like to forewarn you that this may seem like a GE13 reporting. But it is not. I have my reasons.

So let's begin:

Malaysians will be voting for their next government in the next few days. Though the official start of campaigning was on nomination day, the country has been on virtual campaigning mode since 2008. At one side, we have the incumbent Barisan Nasional which have ruled for 56 years. The new-kids-on-the-block (I couldn't resist) Pakatan Rakyat is set to deliver their most serious challenge to the ruling coalition. For 12 General Elections, the BN govt has used creative (but questionable if not outright illegal) means to ensure their continued control of Govt. And they easily do that because they have always controlled two-thirds majority in Parliament. Whenever the opposition gains ground, they gerrymander the electoral borders in order to favour them the next round. This time it is different. For the first time in Malaysian history, the BN lost its two-thirds majority in Parliament. And with it all the old tricks. So now, they resort to other not so effective means by utilizing the Main-Stream Media (MSM), cash-handouts (which is really bribery) and rumoured (but confirmed by Sabah RCI) Project-IC tactics. The Home Minister has also, a few years before, encouraged UMNO to rope in the Mat-Rempits (“criminal” biker gangs). The former PM Tun Dr Mahathir has even flagged off 3,000 Mat Rempits at a PERKASA (ultra-racist organization worse than Pauline Hanson in Australia) event.

In light of all these and other blatant abuse of power, it is a wonder if they can even fool the public anymore and retain power. It is quite obvious from the opposition’s political ceramahs that the tide has indeed turned. However, the opposition are up against the entire government machinery that has been soooo conditioned to believe that the BN=Govt and Govt=BN. Any threat by the opposition is a threat to Govt. This versus the actual practice of democracy which is Govt is formed by the political party that wins the general election and that the Civil Service is independent of influence from the political party. While the actual polling day is on 5th May 2013, astrologers and fengshui experts have already come out with their predictions and they don’t bode well for the opposition.

Renowned Fengshui expert, Dr David Koh has not only predicted that BN will win, he has even gone further by saying the BN would re-capture Selangor and Kedah. Now this brings up the million dollar question. If the public is truly sick of the ruling coalition, then why on earth would they still vote the BN back into power and to rub salt into the wounds, return 2 states back to the BN? Yes.. there is the Law of Attraction i.e. if you hate the BN so much, you are actually giving it more energy and thus helping the BN win because they are getting all the energy. Hey... why else do you think MSM only portrays BN in a good light? Opposition media that portrays BN in a bad light also do not help because they are still giving energy to the BN. Energy, whether positive or negative, is still energy. And the party that gets the most, would most likely win.

But what I would really want to get at is this.

Yes, the charts (Astrology and Fengshui) may favour the BN for obvious reasons like BN’s massive funds and the groundwork done (legal or illegal is immaterial here). It is not rocket science here. However, nothing is cast in stone. There is always the People’s Will and Divine Will.

Like all predictions, if a prediction is a good one, we would like to keep it. If a prediction is a bad one, then it only means something needs to be done in order to change the frequency or energy vibrations in order to bring forth a different outcome. Think back to the Lord of the Rings trilogy (or books). In Lothlorien, the Mirror of Galadriel showed Frodo what the future held for all of middle earth if he were to fail in his mission. And what the mirror showed was the most likely outcome but hope remained. Well, we all know what happened towards the end of the Return of The King.

Hence similarly here, it means if we do not like the predictions given by the fengshui and astrology experts, something needs to shift. The question is, are we shifting and if we are, are we shifting enough?

The answer will be known on 6th May 2013.

But whatever the result, the old energies are being phased out and the new ones flowing in (and past the mid point in 21 Dec 2012) will not sustain the old way of doing things.

May the blessings of the Divine be upon us all.

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Creative Intelligence

Be creative and use powerful actions in line with what you want. If you want to attract the perfect partner, then make room in your closet. If you want to attract a new house, then tidy up your current house so it is ready for easy packing. If you want to take a trip, then get out your suitcases, surround yourself with pictures of the location, and put yourself in the pictures.

Think about what you would do if you had your desire, and then take creative actions that make it clear you are receiving it now.

There is no excuse not to give two minutes today to intend your tomorrow.

The Game of Life is about creating powerful ways of believing so that you receive. Whatever big thing you are asking for, consider having the celebration now as though you have received it.

The law is exact, the law is precise, and it never fails, so when it appears that it isn't working, you can be guaranteed it is not the law that is failing. The error can only be with the person using it. This is great news! Didn't it take practice to walk? Didn't it take practice to drive? With practice you could walk, and with practice you could drive.

Practice is all that stands between you and everything!

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Intention


Intention is the purpose or attitude toward the effect of one’s action or conduct. It is the underlying reason or purpose why you take a specific action or behavioural stance.

From Wikipedia:
Intention is an agent’s specific purpose in performing an action or series of actions, the end or goal that is aimed at. Outcomes that are unanticipated or unforeseen are known as unintended consequences. Intentional behaviour can also be just thoughtful and deliberate goal-directedness.

Before we take any action, we first have the intention to create a specific outcome. Sometimes two persons with different intentions can perform the same actions and obtain completely different results. Therefore our intention does play a major role in determining the outcome of our actions. This is why sometimes, when we attempt to imitate someone’s actions and achievement without first knowing and understanding his/her underlying intention, we end up not getting the same results. We end up not attracting the right people to aid us or the path does not seem quite as smooth. In such a circumstance, it is highly possible that our intention just does not jive with the sequence of actions that we have chosen to imitate to achieve that desired result.

Know that the universe always provides. It never fails. As you ask, so shall you receive. However, the key here is not to be fixated onto a particular course of action just because someone else has done it. You do not know that person’s underlying intention. Therefore all you need to do, is in fact intend and that let things flow. Perhaps a better way to describe this would be to hold a “preference” J

As beings of light, created in the likeness of God, you create your future with the power of your intention. Intention is simply the conscious act of determining your future now. Health, harmony in relationships, happiness, money, creativity, and love will come to you in the future, based on your intentions now. Therefore, intend every day and create your future life.

For Example:
Most people think to ask for health only when they don't have it, but you can intend great health at any time. Use the power of your intention every single day and see yourself healthy and well. Intend health for you and intend health for others.

Every time you get into a car, remember to take a couple of seconds and see yourself arriving at your destination happy and well. No matter what the trip is you are taking or the type of transportation you are using, use the power of the Universe through your intention and create a beautiful, safe journey.

So, have you set your intention for the day today, or are you going to let today be governed by the thoughts of yesterday? Here are some words to help you get started.
All Good is coming to me today.
All my desires will be met today.
Magic and miracles will follow me everywhere today.
Have the best day ever!

Saturday, March 16, 2013

Illusions and Perception


This article is a summary of Sal Rachele’s article on Illusion and Perception.

An illusion is a distortion of the senses whether optical, auditory, tactile, or involving the other senses. In spirituality, a simple definition of illusion is “not perceiving things as they are”. However, because we never really perceive anything as it actually is, perceiving itself is an illusory device. We could say that reality is merely different configurations of vibrating energy in a quantum flux. How we view that reality will always be in distortion, at least as long as we are in human form. Then there are psychological illusions that only exist to the perceiver, such as fear. Fear is an energy pattern in the mind of the perceiver. The Acronym for Fear is False Expectations Appearing Real.

”Evil” is a state of distortion whereby one separates out one or more parts of creation as being less deserving of Infinite Love than other parts of creation. It involves judgment, projection and blame. The illusion of duality is created by separating oneself from part or all of creation, at least mentally (in actuality it is impossible to separate oneself from Creation).

”Good” does not triumph over “evil”, but rather, the illusions of “good” and “evil” are dispelled and the reality beyond duality is remembered. The Oneness has always existed, and existed all the time we were having the dream of duality.

The natural world and all creatures in it are not illusions; however, the way we perceive the natural world and other sentient life is an illusion.

The Universe consists of energy patterns, waves and particles, and even this is not an adequate description. In other words, the description is part of the illusion. The word is not the object, the mental picture is not the reality.

Perhaps the question really is: Can we directly experience the reality behind the illusion of appearance? A recent movie, “What the [bleep] Do We Know?” explores the Quantum Uncertainty Principle in a highly entertaining form. The Mind of the Creator and the individual minds of the extensions of the Creator (known as souls) collectively make up the Matrix. There is an energetic reality beyond the personality or ego self, but it exists within a collective field, at least in this manifest Universe. In the higher realms, things may be a bit harder to analogize.

The key, then, is to learn to transcend perception and experience life directly through inner knowing. The problem is, it’s usually the ego trying to do this. The ego obviously cannot transcend itself, but perhaps it can understand itself well enough to realize its true position as servant and not master. When the ego stops trying to control everything, the higher senses (psychic, intuitive, clairvoyant, etc.) are able to arise, and perception changes. Self-awareness is the key to transcendent perception.

The Power of Belief
Randi the magician has an ongoing offer to pay $1,000,000 to anyone who can demonstrate that psychic phenomena is real.* It's my bet that he'll never have to pay up. Why? Because to him, it doesn't exist, and no amount of “proof” by Russian scientists will ever be enough to satisfy his extreme denial. What we don’t want to see doesn’t exist for us, and unless something comes along to sufficiently shake our belief, we go on living on a flat earth**, so to speak.

Fear
Fear is one of the most prevalent illusory perceptions in today’s world. We see it every day in the media. We see its subtle forms, such as anxiety, stress, nervousness and restlessness. Fear is but an illusion. It’s based on the illusory belief that someone or something outside ourselves can harm us or destroy our peace of mind. This is only true if we believe we are separate from God and Creation. Once we remove the belief in separation, there is no fear. Seeing that this is an illusion, we can move right through the fear to the reality on the other side.

We must stay fully present with fear -- notice everything about it -- it's color, texture, bodily sensation, how it arises, how it dissolves, what thoughts it generates, what actions we take, how we try to deny it, etc. Avoiding IS the fear
tself. Only awareness dispels it.

Believing the Drama is Real
Ram Dass once said, "Before enlightenment it was me and my STUFF!!! Now, it's just me and my stuff." The “stuff” was still there, but swami's awareness had grown so much that the stuff was now just a little pile of poop instead of a mountain of sh*t. You’ve heard the expression “Don’t make mountains out of molehills.” And I’m sure you’ve known at least one (probably several) drama kings or queens. These folks take life way too seriously. After all, what’s the worst that could happen? You might lose your body. Someone might kill you, or torture you. You might wither away, alone and in poverty, starving and wasting from disease. All your loved ones could die horrible deaths. The world could be destroyed by nuclear weapons.

Notice a pattern? All of these involve the physical body. But we are soooo much more than our physical bodies. Once we realize we are Spirit, our bodies become merely vehicles for communication on this plane of existence. Not only are they no longer all important, but moving into Spirit automatically causes us to draw into our lives only experiences that promote our spiritual growth – and that rarely involves any kind of violence or suffering.

That's how it is for a lot of us now. We've been around the block a few times and have learned to recognize how the ego blows everything out of proportion as it vainly tries to save us from ourselves. More and more we are coming from center (Spirit or Soul) instead of from ego, and it feels wonderful in a solid sort of way. Of course, things can still blow us off-track, but they don't seem to consume us as much anymore.

We cannot wish or do away with the ego. That's because it's the ego that wants to do away with things in the first place. When I'm centered and clear within, I laugh. When we’re tempted to buy into one of the illusions of the world, such as "I'm at the effect of forces beyond my control," that's when it’s time to remember Who We Really Are. We are soooo vast. We are loved by God so much that our minds will NEVER be able to conceive of more than a tiny fraction of that love.

Choosing Spirit
A Course In Miracles says “every moment we are choosing between the resurrection and the crucifixion.” To me, this means that every thought can be life affirming or life denying, loving or fearful, real or illusory. Are we giving power to illusions and trying to make them real, or are we embracing our Divinity? In the Bible, the "knowledge of good and evil" refers to the belief in duality. This knowledge of good and evil brings with it a burden, as stated in Genesis. But isn't knowledge better than blissful ignorance? Yes, but we must go from knowledge to transcendence. Knowledge includes being aware of just how deeply we bought into the belief in good and evil. Once we see every crack and crevice of the darkness inherent in this belief, the light of awareness dispels the illusion of duality and we remember that all is Spirit.

A Word About Compassion
An important point that I’ve made before is that once we realize the power of belief, and the truth that our perceptions (thoughts) create our reality, we may be tempted to dismiss the suffering of others as “their belief; they created it; it’s their karma.” Or we may go one step further and say, “It doesn’t matter that children are starving because the world is an illusion.”

Let’s remember that it’s 4th dimensional consciousness that spouts the "all is illusion" rap in order to avoid looking at issues. Fifth dimensional consciousness is love and unity, and love always finds some way to respond to a call for help. Millions of our brothers and sisters are calling out for help, and the Love Within will respond if we open to it. Love's help may or may not appear as outer action, but closing our hearts to suffering is definitely not a 5D response.

The real question here is about being guided by one's own God Presence to help in the best possible way. My soul often attracts other souls either to help me or be helped. I do not need to go out of my way seeking to help others, nor should I be worried about rejecting a plea of help. Love is spontaneous and natural and if I'm listening to WHO I AM, I will respond appropriately. Sometimes it may look like active intervention; sometimes like nothing at all. Spirit knows what it's doing, my ego does not. Our egos do not know all of the ramifications of any assistance we offer. Maybe that spare change we gave to the man on the street went for alcohol. Then this drunk man stole a car and mowed over a dozen people. Or maybe that smile we gave prevented the suicide of someone who later became a major figure for change in the world. All of us affect the world more than we can imagine.

All of the above discussion can be distilled down to one sentence regarding perception: God’s Love within us is real; all else is illusion. Yes, it’s that simple.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Master Believing


There is a magician who has offered to pay USD 1 million to anyone who can demonstrate that psychic phenomenon is real. I believe he will never have to pay up not because a psychic phenomenon does not exist but rather because in his reality, it does not. If we believe something does not exist to the point of extreme denial of its existence, no amount of proof by Russian scientists will ever convince you that it is real. What we don’t want to see doesn’t exist for us, and unless something comes along to sufficiently shake our belief, we go on living on a flat earth, so to speak. By the way, there really is an actual group called the Flat Earth Society that still believes the Earth is flat!

We all know of people whom are so fixated in their belief system that no amount of proof and convincing will ever turn them from their beliefs. It is like even if God comes down to tell them they are wrong, they will retort and say God is wrong. They will not see beyond their tunnel vision and have closed minds. This is what fanatics are made of. They believe in achieving martyrdom through suicide bombing etc. Such is the negative aspect of believing.

However the reverse of this negative aspect of belief is also true. And this is where the power of belief is also apparent. We can use this to our advantage by mastering believing.

To master believing, all you have to do is tip the balance of your thoughts, words, and actions, from "not believing" that you can achieve something to believing that you can. The ONLY thing that can ever get in the way of manifesting what you want is having more thoughts of "not believing," speaking more words of "not believing," and taking more actions of "not believing," than you are of believing.

In fact when we are “not believing” that we can, we are actually “believing” that we can’t. Therefore, base the majority of your thoughts, words, and actions in believing that you can, and the law of attraction must obey you.

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Everything Happens for a Reason...pt 2


The old Chinese folktale about the farmer, his son and horse perfectly explains the title of this posting. I will repeat it here again:

There lived an old farmer with his son at the northern frontiers. He had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbours came to condole over his terrible loss. The farmer said, "What makes you think it is so terrible?"
A month later, the horse came home--this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbours became excited at the farmer's good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, "What makes you think this is good fortune?"
The farmer's son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg. All the neighbours were very distressed. Such bad luck! The farmer said, "What makes you so sure this isn't a blessing?"
A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man was conscripted and sent into battle. The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men. Only the farmer's son, because he had a broken leg, remained. Only because the son was lame did the father and son survive to take care of each other. Truly, blessing turns to disaster, and disaster to blessing: the changes have no end, nor can the mystery be fathomed.

Look back to your life now. Have there ever been events that if you look at it now you would say they were turning points in life whereby you were forced to make decisions as to which path to take. At that time, you may not have been pleased with the decision you have made. Neither were you happy at the circumstances that drove you to such crossroads nor forced you down any one path. But because you made that decision or took a certain path, events (positively perceived or negatively perceived) unfolded, that led you to places and people that made major impacts in your life. Impacts that enriched your life so much that you would not exchange it for anything else. And all that was possible only because of events that were perceived to be bad at the time of happening.

From my own life experience, events that happened almost two decades ago took me down a path that I actually hated but that path took me to people and other events that eventually brought me to where I am with the knowledge and growth that I now possess. All that would not have been possible if that event did not happen almost 20 years ago.

EVERYTHING happens for a reason.

What if you want to attract love and be joyously happy? But then you get caught up in the details of WHO, and you think that a particular person is the answer to your perfect relationship. The Universe can see way into the future, and it knows if a particular person will fulfill your dream or become your nightmare. When you don't receive the love of a particular person, you might think the law is not working. But it is working. Your greatest desire is to attract love and be joyously happy, and the Universe is saying, "Not him or not her, and please get out of the way, I am trying to deliver the perfect person to you."

I can again relate this from my own life experience on how I met my better half. I had just recovered from breaking up with my ex after a 4 year relationship and actually started dating an attractive lady. We both liked each other. Her job takes her offshore for extended periods but we keep in touch whenever we can. She never fails to call me whenever she returns home from abroad. She had many qualities that I liked but somehow it’s like things are stuck. Then for some reason, she said to me not to continue waiting for her as she does not know when she can be ready to settle down due to her job commitment. If it happens it happens, if I find someone else, she is ok with me letting her go. I was like, “what the hell?” Well, to cut a long story short, I knew what I wanted in my life partner but I was very fixated on the lady that I was dating. So though I would really liked to have settled down with her, I surrendered to the universe my criteria for a life partner not expecting anyone else to meet that criteria. Other girls came and went while I still dated her with her full knowledge (I sensed that she was a bit sad probably with the prospect of possibly losing out). Then one day someone arranged a blind date for me and I was like “Oh come on... you have got to be kidding me”. But a friend present at that time said to me, “So what if it’s a blind date. You won’t know where it would lead you do you?”. So I decided to give it a try, what have I got to lose anyway. Lo and behold, that decision led me to the woman who would later become my spouse. She has all the criteria that I have listed down (I should have listed more “grin”) and today I have a beautiful family.

If I had stubbornly stuck to the status quo at that time, would I have what I have today in another form? Maybe... maybe not... but I would not exchange what I have now for sure.

Therefore be very careful about getting caught up in the "who," "where," "when," or "how," because you could block your true desire from being delivered to you.

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